Let's set the record straight, Christians are not supposed to "date," we are supposed to "court." What is the difference? Dating is based upon physical attraction, personal chemistry, mutual interests and a desire for companionship. Courting is based upon a pursuit to identify if a person has been ordained by God to be your spouse. The difference is that you can date someone without being overly concerned about whether you're going to marry them or not. Such is not the case with courting. Once you identify that the person is not the one you are to marry the courtship ceases. I've had plenty of people that I've dated who, after a while, I knew was not going to be my wife; but I continued to date them anyway! This is not of God. The church has to get back to the Divine Design of how relationships are supposed to lead to marriage, and dating is not the way.
With courtship there is no physical, romantic contact. No kissing, no making out, no heavy petting, no inappropriate touching; this type of activity does not transpire in courtship. Why not? Because that type of intense physical exchange is reserved for marriage. In typical dating, even Christians who date, if you're not sexually involved (which is not a given even in the church), usually you're "pushing the line" to see how far you can go without "sinning." Once again, this is not the will of God. When you're courting, you're deliberately and intentionally trying to find out "who the person is" so you can accurately discern and ascertain if God has ordained them to be your spouse. A lot of times it's hard to stay "objective" when physical involvement has transpired.
I know this concept is not popular, let alone readily taught, but Saints, we've got to restore Divine Order to the relationships that lead to marriage. We need to "kiss dating goodbye" and embrace the consecration of courtship.
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