The Divine Hook-Up

One of the preoccupations of our society these days, including for people in the church, is finding companionship. I don't meet too many people that "desire" to be alone. For this reason, you have different dating sites and singles clubs, all designed to "match you" with someone that is supposedly "compatible" for you. There's nothing inherently wrong with this if you will, but these types of things can serve more as a distraction than a blessing. What we want to realize is that if we are desiring companionship, particularly someone that we can ultimately marry, then we need to believe that God still majors in what I describe as The Divine Hook-Up.

I believe that God has given most people a desire to interact significantly with the opposite sex. To want to be with someone, I believe, is of God. The problem is not the desire, the problem is the approach. God does not want us spending energy trying to "find our spouse." Believe it or not, that's His job. Our job is to seek His Face and do His will (Psalm 27). However, it's hard to do this if we don't really believe that while we're seeking His Face, He's actually "hooking us up"

Let's look at some scriptures. When we look at the first marriage in the Garden of Eden (Genesis 2), there's nothing that suggests that Adam "requested" a wife. The Bible suggests that Adam was simply being about His Father's Business. Yet it was the Father who declared that it was not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2). It was at this point that God proceeded to "hook him up" and make for Adam a wife. Did you know that God is still in the "spouse making" business? The Bible clearly states "ask and it shall be given..."(Matthew 7). You can get what you want. Not necessarily "who" you want, but what you want. God is still making husbands and wives that are tailor-made to fit the needs and purpose of His people.

Then we see in Genesis how God uses Abraham to find a wife for his son Isaac (Genesis 24). In this narrative Abraham is a type of God the Father, and Isaac is actually a type of Christ. However, the methodology utilized in this text is still consistent with how God goes about providing a marital partner for His people. Abraham sends his servant to go to his homeland amongst his kinspeople, to find a wife for his son. The servant is led by an angel to complete this assignment. 

The Father already has people stationed to bring your spouse to you at His Appointed Time. He doesn't need your help! God has already ordained who He has identified to help you fulfill His Purpose for your life. If you follow the story, you'll notice that Isaac had absolutely nothing to do with the securing of his bride. That was his "father's" job. Just as it is our Heavenly Father's job. 

So, am I supposed to do nothing in the receiving of my spouse? Once again, let's look at scripture. When the servant of Abraham returns with Rebekkah, Isaac's wife, the scripture says that he "went out to meditate in the field" (Genesis 24). In other words, he wasn't focused on finding his spouse, he was focused on seeking God! And because he was focused on seeking God, God brought him his wife (Matthew 19). 

Quit focusing on finding your husband, quit focusing on finding your wife. Focus on God and His Will and Purpose for your life. And as you meditate on Him, you'll look up like Isaac did and discover that God is still in the Divine Hook-Up business.