Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Fighting for your Family

As God continues to place emphasis upon The Family, we must recognize that the Family in general and our own Families in particular, are not something that we can afford to ignore and neglect. We live in a day where many members of our society are so steeped in individualism that they feel Family is no longer a prerequisite for their own personal survival and subsistence. To this I would beg to differ. God has given all of us, a Family; and whether we believe it or not, we all have the responsibility to attend to our Families. Some of us have situations where we've had "falling outs" in our Family. Disagreements and arguments have placed a wedge between us and some of those who represent our next of kin. Some of us have grown complacent and seemingly content with allowing these Family Relationships to simply fall by the way side as we call ourselves "going on with our lives". But let me say for the record that this is not the Will of God. We are at a point in time where we now have to Fight for our Family.

Satan is busy basically "busting up" the Family. The Devil is a master at creating divisiveness and discord, particularly amongst family members. However, we have to take a stand against this Satanic assault and Fight for our Families. We have to make a decree and declare, "Satan, you are not going to break up my family, you are not going to create division, you are not going to create discord; I decree there will be love in my Family, I decree that there will be Peace in my Family, I decree that there will be Unity in my Family. And I decree it, in the Name of Jesus". This is a Stand for the Family that God is calling all of us to make. We're not going to be able to be casual and laid back and see our families come back together and ultimately stay together. We're going to have to be aggressive, we're going to have to be assertive and we're going to have to be willing to Fight for our Family.

The first weapon we're going to have to use in Fighting for our Families is the weapon of Understanding. As loving family members, we've got to stop expecting people to see things from "our perspective". You and your father are not the same. You and your mother are not the same. You and your spouse are not the same. So if your family is "different" from you, why are you expecting them to think like you and act like you and respond like you? This is not of God. We must exercise Understanding. We have to Understand where our family members are coming from. It doesn't mean you have to "agree" with where they're coming from. But in Understanding their particular vantage point, it will allow you to reach and relate to them where they are, not from where you "think" they should be, and allow peace and mutuality to function in the relationship.

Then we have to Fight for our Family with the weapon of Forgiveness. Saints, too many Families are broken apart and relationships estranged because of a lack of Forgiveness. The pain incurred from a loved one who's a member of your Family, has a way of hurting more than from someone who is not your blood. I don't understand it, but Family members have a way of "getting under your skin" and "ticking you off" more so than anybody else. The mistake we make when we are hurt or injured by Family is to let it linger and fester. We must, and I repeat must learn to Forgive. Let it go. Forgive. At the end of the day they're still your Parents, they're still your children, they're still your siblings, they're still your spouse. Forgive. And even if they represent another part of the Family, Forgive. Remember, we are to forgive others as God for Christ's sake hath Forgiven us (Ephesians 4). Let's not continue to let these grudges and disagreements keep us away from our loved ones and kindred. It's time for us to Fight for our Family.

Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Parental Post

Whether we realize it or not, the Family is in Crisis. The Father is making a clarion call in regards to the condition of the Family. The reason this is extremely significant is because if the Family doesn't get back in Order, the foundation and fabric of our society is lost. We can talk about the economy, we can talk about the government, we can talk about the schools, we can even talk about the church; but at the end of the day, everything starts and stems from the Family.

If the Family is going to be reconstructed and reestablished, there has to be a reinforcement of Parental Responsibility. Parents, mothers and fathers, have to get back on their Parental Post. If Parents don't do their job, the Family is lost. Mothers and Fathers have to step up to the plate and fulfill the Divinely Designed Office for which God has providentially allowed them to occupy. If people don't recommit to their Parental Post, we could possibly lose an entire generation.

Let's first start with the Parental Responsibility of simply having children. There must be a renewal of the understanding that if you become or get someone pregnant, you just assumed parental responsibility. In other words, you don't have the right to abort your child. Whether a person is "ready" or not to be a responsible parent when they conceive or impregnate an individual, does not alleviate them from the responsibility of bringing that child into the world. We must remember, God is the Author of Life. Regardless of all of the "trimester" arguments out there, we need to establish that God is the Creator of Life, not man. Therefore, since humans are not the givers of life, we neither have the right to be the takers thereof. Once you become pregnant or get someone pregnant, whether you like it or not, you have the Divine Responsibility to bring that child into the world; not to "kill it" out of social convenience or public image.

Next, once we have children, we must assume the responsibility of Motherhood and Fatherhood. Being a Mother and a Father is actually a spiritual office and a spiritual ministry from God. One of the reasons why society doesn't take these familial roles as seriously anymore is because they've become so secularized that people process them strictly through personal subjectivity. But this is not the Will of God. Motherhood and Fatherhood are Spiritual Offices that are supposed to be carried out in obedience to God (Ephesians 6). With this in mind, one of the primary responsibilities of mothers and fathers is simply to be there. Of course parenting is much deeper than that, but what we're talking about is Availability, physically and emotionally. This phenomenon of the "missing dad" is a travesty. You've got children growing up now that don't even know who their daddy "is". That's a shame. This is not the Will of God. If you've been chosen by God to bring a child into this world (and what we don't talk about enough is that there are more than a few people who cannot) then you need to cherish this privilege and be there for your children. Be present, show up, let them know that Daddy and Mommy are there. Not just physically but emotionally as well.

Saints, our children need a Covering. Satan is after this next Generation, because it's widely believed that it will be this next Generation that will actually usher in the Return of Christ. Someone has to raise these children in the admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6). Someone has to direct these children in the way that they should go. But this will only happen if Mothers and Fathers assume their Parental Post.

Monday, April 11, 2016

Divorce

As we continue our discussion on The Focus of the Family, we want to address the issue of Divorce. The random statistics suggest that roughly 50% of all marriages in America end up in Divorce. What is more alarming to me is that it has been stated that nearly 60% of all Christian marriages end up in Divorce. What a tragedy! This means that marriages in the church are failing at a higher rate than those in the world. This is a terrible witness. But it stands to reason, because many Christians follow the same principles for marriage that the world does. Therefore we cannot be surprised if we are getting similar, and obviously in some cases, worse results. This is an issue that has to be addressed in and by the church. We must address the issue of Divorce.

The first thing that we want to establish is that God Hates Divorce (Malachi 2). From this we must conclude that it is not "alright" to get married and then just get a Divorce; particularly on multiple occasions! This is not pleasing to God. When a person gets married, we need to establish the commitment to stay married until "death do us part".

The next thing we want to establish is that Marriage is not designed to "make you happy". This is the illusion that a lot of people make, including Christians, going into marriage. People tend to think that once they get married, at best, it will lead to or enhance their Happiness. This is incorrect. The fallacy is, when people discover that their spouse is not "making them happy", then they decide to "get a Divorce". However, if the false premise had not been embraced that married life was going to make you happy, you may not have been so inclined to part from your vows to God. Therefore, we have to erase this very secular notion that marriage is designed to make you happy. It is not.

So if marriage is not for happiness, then why get married? Marriage is not for happiness, it's for the fulfillment of Divine Purpose. Let me say it again: you don't get married for happiness, you get married for Purpose. This is where most of Americans, including Christians, miss it. We've been conditioned to find a "life partner" for whom we are compatible with, have chemistry, common interests, common goals and mutual attraction. What does any of that have to do with God? All of those things are secular and superficial. The question that needs to be raised before getting married is, Is this the individual that God has ordained to help me fulfill His Divine Calling and Purpose for my life? If they are not (and you can discern that) then you have no business marrying them; no matter how much you are romantically "in love" with them.

Saints, if you are married and you are a child of God, I strongly encourage you to hold on to your marriage. Even if you got married for the "wrong reasons". Even if your spouse is not the one that "God" actually chose for you (you chose them yourself); because you made vows to God in your marriage ceremony, and even if you didn't, marriage is of God not of man: I strongly encourage you-hold on to your marriage. Granted there are some conditions that require divorce (Matthew 19); but let that be the exception, not the rule. Let us be prayerful and allow God to heal and restore our marriages. For at the end of the day, God Hates Divorce.

Saturday, April 9, 2016

Focus on the Family, Part 3

When discussing the Focus of the Family, we must address the "roles" of the various family members. Most of us have heard of the term "dysfunctional family". The only reason we have dysfunctional families is because people in the Family don't know how to properly function. The operative word in this statement is "know". If people would be honest, most of us don't "know" how to be a husband. Most of us don't "know" how to be a wife. Most of us don't "know" how to be a father. Most of us don't "know" how to be a mother. And most of us don't know how to be a son or daughter to our parents, particularly when we become adults. So if we're operating in one of God's most Sacred Gifts to humanity, and we in essence don't know what we're doing, the result is going to be Dysfunction. Therefore, we must become more knowledgeable of what it is that God expects from us in these particular Family Roles.

Let's start with the Husband and the Father. The Husband is the Head of the Household (Ephesians 5). This is not debatable, this is not up for discussion, this is the Word of God. God has an Established Order for the Family, and when we as a society go against it, our families are not going to work. Therefore, regardless of the personality, intellect or even spirituality of he who is in the office of the husband or the father, according to the Word and Order of God, that man is in charge. This must be stressed because too many households are being run by the women and this is not the Will of God. Let me stress again, too many households are being run by the women and this is not the Will of God. Regardless of whether the husband is "allowing" this or permitting this, it's still outside of Divine Order. So the man needs to get back in his rightful divine place of headship over the Family that God has Providentially given to him. I can assure you, according to the Divine Order of God, if the husband is not the head, the Family is not going to work.

Then the Wife and Mother is to be Submissive to the Leadership of her Husband. This has been a sensitive issue for years, with the feminist movement and women's rights. But those are social and philosophical movements, not the Word of God. We can't be regulated by theological and social fads, we must be regulated by what thus saith the Lord. And the Lord indeed has a Word regarding "His" Institution of Family. So if you are a God-Fearing Woman, regardless of the initiative, the assertiveness, the intelligence, the spirituality, or the lack thereof, of the man you "chose" to marry, your responsibility to God is to yield to his leadership. I can assure you, if you do not subscribe to the Order that God has established for the office of the wife, your marriage and your family will not be Blessed.

These are fundamental points saints, that many Christians still grapple and argue about. It's no wonder therefore that our witness to the world regarding the state of the Family is lacking and waning. Regardless of how we feel or how we've been conditioned, in Focusing on the Family, we must get back to the Divine Order of God as established in His Word.

Friday, April 8, 2016

Focus on the Family, Part 2

Recently a prophetic word was shared with me, where God said that there needs to be A Focus on the Family. God the Father is concerned with the state and status of the Family, and it's time that the church do something proactively to re-establish the Foundation and Value of the Family in our churches and in our country.

When discussing the Family serving as the Foundation of our society, we must also establish that The Foundation of the Family is Marriage. The Order that God originally established for the Family is that of Husband and Wife. Not just man and woman, male and female, Husband and Wife. This is significant, because there are too many couples that think they can start a Family without being married. This is not the Will of God. You can reproduce, you can have children, but in order to start a Family according to the Divine Order that God has established, you must be Husband and Wife. Otherwise, you're not starting a Family, you're developing a Secular Association with genetic blood ties.

This is one of the reasons why there's a major attack on the Institution of Marriage. If you can undermine and redefine Marriage, you can thereby redefine the Family and consequently, redefine Society. This is Satan's whole scheme. But God is ready to Re-Establish the Sanctity and Sacredness of the Institution of Marriage and Family, as the Foundation for The Kingdom of God. Therefore, we must address these attacks.

As I've stated on numerous occasions, one of the greatest ills in our society right now is the legalization of same-sex marriage. I am so grateful that there are states like Mississippi that are passing Religious Freedom Bills to protect the rights of Christians who stand against same-sex marriage according to the Word of God. What the promotion of homosexual unions does is it redefines what marriage is and redefines the Family. My biggest issue with it is that in essence they're saying that God is wrong. The Order that God established in the Beginning for the Family was male and female (Genesis 2). To go against that is a slap in God's Face. And saints I'm trying to tell you, America will have to face serious Judgment if we don't repent of this legal perversion. But the church must take a stand against this; because in taking a stand against same-sex marriage we're taking a stand For the Family, in terms of how God has Ordained the Family to be.

Thursday, April 7, 2016

Focus on the Family

Recently a prophetic word was shared with me, where the Lord stressed the Focus of the Family. God is very concerned with the state and status of the Family right now, particularly in America. There's been an attack on the Family for decades now, and it's time that the church fights back and restores the Foundation and the Value of the Family. The Institution of the Family is the Foundation of any society. Therefore, if a society loses the Foundation of Family, it in essence loses the basis of its social foundation. For this reason, it's time for us to Focus on the Family.

The God we serve is a God of Order. The Family Institution is now operating out of Divine Order. Let's first start with Pregnancies. Children are not supposed to be born out of wedlock. Let me say it again: children are not supposed to be born out of wedlock. Which means, if you're not married, you're not supposed to be getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant. People having babies and getting pregnant is now the norm in our society. This is an attack against the Family. But what is it that leads to this particular social phenomenon? People having sex outside of marriage. So let's establish this basic principle that many people, including many Christians, have failed to adhere to: it is not the will of God for people to have sex outside the boundaries of marriage. Which means, if you're not married, you shouldn't be having sex. I don't know too many people (there are a few) who have waited to engage in sexual intercourse until they were legally married. Pre-marital sex and promiscuous behavior is almost to be expected in our society today. But, once again, sex before marriage is an attack against The Family. You can't appropriately address the problem if you don't get to the root. We must promote the Sanctity of Sex in order to restore the Sacredness of Marriage.

With the dynamic of pre-marital sex and babies born out of wedlock, you then have fathers and mothers who are not joined in Holy Matrimony. Therefore, right off the bat, you're dealing with a Fractured Family. There are too many children being born in relational situations where the mother and father are not committed to each other as husband and wife. We're not talking about some "significant other" stuff, we're talking about "Marriage". So this dynamic automatically puts the Family in a fractured, fragmented state that does overwhelming harm to the children emotionally and psychologically. We must make a shift saints. We must advocate and promote these Fundamentals of Family or the Foundation required for the Restoration of the Family will not take place.

Wednesday, April 6, 2016

Living In the Real World

I'm sure that many of us, when we were growing up in high school or in our late-teens and maybe even early twenties, heard our parents or some other adult figure say to us, "just wait till you get to the Real World". A lot of times college graduates hear this phrase. No longer in school (presumably), now they have to go get a job and start living in "the Real World". This statement suggests that there is a Transition that teenagers and young adults must make in regards to adapting to what could be described as economic and financial self-sufficiency. However, I think this phrase can also apply to the Transition spiritually that many of us need to make as Christians and believers in Christ.

I am convinced that there are too many Christians that, as it relates to their relationship with Christ, still have not Transitioned to Living In the Real World. The question that must first be raised is, what is the Real World? In a Christian context, the Real World is the Spirit Realm, The World of the Invisible. A lot of times, we as Christians still think that what is Real is that for which one can touch and see and taste and feel; this is the "real world". However saints, this is incorrect. The Real World is not that for which you can see, the Real World is that for which you cannot see. We know this is true because God is Real. God is More Real than anything that exists in the universe; and yet we can't and don't see Him. So the basis of Reality is rooted in the Invisible. But let's go a little bit further. Science will tell you that everything that makes up physical matter is comprised and made up of atoms. Have you ever "seen" an atom, outside of a microscope, with your naked eye? No you have not. Why? Because atoms are invisible in the Natural realm. But they are the building blocks of everything you witness in the Natural. Therefore, Reality is not rooted in the visible, it's based upon the Invisible.

With all of this being said, we as believers need to grow up and start learning to operate primarily in the Invisible World of the Spirit Realm. We need to start believing in the Supernatural. We need to be convinced that with God, Miracles are the norm. We need to start accepting the reality of the demonic and the Reality of Angelic Beings. We need to believe in Supernatural Healings and Supernatural Provision. All of these are things that we can't "see". But believe me saints, the Spirit World is "more real" than the Natural Realm. But in order to make that Transition, just like teenagers and young adults, you have to Grow Up. You can't continue to operate on spiritual milk and biblical baby food (Hebrews 5). It's time we learn to start truly walking by faith (2Corinthians 5, Hebrews 11). It's time that as the children of God, we start Living In the Real World.